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Staff Pick: Prolific Authors

Isn’t it wonderful when you finish a great book and find out the author has written tons of others? This summer, why not try one of these prolific authors and read everything they’ve written? Thousands of pages await you!

STEPHEN KING — search the Minuteman and Overdrive catalogs

Where to start with Stephen King

 

TONI MORRISON — search the Minuteman and Overdrive catalogs

Where to start with Toni Morrison

 

TERRY PRATCHETT — search the Minuteman and Overdrive catalogs

Where to start with Terry Pratchett

 

MARGARET ATWOOD — search the Minuteman and Overdrive catalogs

Where to start with Margaret Atwood

 

HARUKI MURAKAMI — search the Minuteman and Overdrive catalogs

Where to start with Haruki Murakami

 

 

Unpacking Hope

UNPACKING HOPE:  Obstacle or Catalyst

By Martha E. Fagan, RN, BSN

Hope brings to mind a positive emotional state…”I feel hopeful.”  We express this as we hope for change—a COVID19 vaccine, world peace, decreased racism, reversing global warming, returning to some semblance of normal, etc.  Hope elicits positive emotions and brings us comfort now.

So, as we continue living in our current moment of fear, anxiety and all the unknowns surrounding the Coronavirus along with our nations dark moments of racism and police brutality, hope can be a saving grace.  Hope eases our fear as we envision a brighter and better future.

Thich Nhat Hanh the Vietnamese Buddhist monk describes the potential that though hope is necessary to bear difficult present times it can also be an obstacle if we merely wish for better outcomes.  In an essay found in the book Peace Is Every Step he describes it this way, “Hope is important, because it can make the present moment less difficult to bear.  If we believe that tomorrow will be better, we can bear a hardship today.  But that is the most that hope can do for us—to make some hardship lighter.  When I think deeply about the nature of hope, I see something tragic.  Since we cling to our hope in the future, we do not focus our energies and capabilities on the present moment.  We use hope to believe something better will happen in the future, that we will arrive at peace.  Hope becomes a kind of obstacle .…Western civilization places so much emphasis on the idea of hope that we sacrifice the present moment…. I do not mean you should not have hope, but that hope is not enough.”

So what to do?

We can embrace hope now AND use this hope as a catalyst for change and accomplishing goals.

According to positive psychologist Charles Richard “Rick” Snyder, hopeful thinkers achieve more, and are physically and psychologically healthier than less hopeful people.

Snyder dedicated years to studying the concept of hope and how hope has impact on many aspects of life including overall health and personal meaning.

Snyder’s Hope Theory is comprised of three main constructs that make up hopeful thinking:

  • Goals—approaching life in a goal-oriented way
  • Pathways—finding different ways to achieve your goals
  • Agency—believing you can instigate change and achieve your goals

Our capacity for hopeful thought starts in our early years as we begin to develop an understanding of causation…realizing one thing can lead to another.

This is the beginning of “pathways” thinking.

At about one year of age, we realize that we can make things happen.  This is “agency” thinking.

Together pathways and agency thinking give us the tools we need to take action, make changes and pursue our goals.

 My hope—

Is that our hopefulness serves as our foundation to take action today, in our present moment, to work towards shaping our future.  By identifying our desired outcome, combining our self-efficacy (pathways thinking) and self- agency (agency thinking) we can make a difference in our own life and our larger community.  Hope can be our catalyst not our obstacle.

What would that look like during these current dual pandemics?

If limiting the spread of the virus is your goal, you can find ways to support our “reopening” in responsible ways.

Begin re-connecting face to face with friends and family while continuing to practice safe social distancing…taking cautious first steps.  Wear a mask when near others.  Have a lawn gathering with chairs a safe distance apart.  Support a local restaurant as they reopen, enjoying an alfresco dinner. 

If decreasing global warming is your goal, you can keep walking like you’ve most likely been doing through these past months.  Consider biking to a destination whenever possible.  Make the choice to eat less meat.  Begin composting.  Stop buying bottled water.

And, if supporting anti racism efforts is your goal, you can make phone calls or write postcards for a charity working to end voter suppression, donate to organizations working to educate our children about what racial equity looks like and how to work towards it in our society.  Become a Big Brother or Big Sister to a child in need. 

Hope isn’t meant to be passive.  We want our hope to motivate us into action, to walk with our hope now, today.  A. J. Muste, the mid-twentieth-century leader of the peace movement in America who inspired millions of people, said, “There is no way to peace, peace is the way.”

This means we can realize inner peace right in our present moment with our look, our smile, our words and our actions.  If we could live in our days like this then our hope is powerful and evident in our daily choices.  We are living our hope.

“The best way to not feel hopeless is to get up and do something. Don’t wait for good things to happen to you. If you go out and make some good things happen, you will fill the world with hope, you will fill yourself with hope.” ~ Barack Obama

 

Martha Fagan is the Vice Chair of the Bacon Free Library. She may be reached through her email at mefagan.bfl@gmail.com

 

Staff Pick: Movie of the Week

More from the movie corner of Graziella: Departures
 
This week’s film, Yōjirō Takita’s Departures, was the first Japanese production to win the Academy Award for Best Foreign Language Film in 2009. Deftly weaving poignant and plaintive music into the narrative, Departures gently runs the gamut of sentiments, from tears to smiles, and, what’s more, does so while tackling a taboo topic—indeed the protagonist himself struggles against the taboo’s social stigma but…. no spoilers, of course!
 
Watch Departures on HOOPLA here.

 

Staff Pick: Movie of the Week

Graziella’s Recommendation: movie of the week on Kanopy
 
More from the movie corner of Graziella: Victoria
 
This week’s film might seem just  an average  crime thriller-and it certainly is story-wise. What makes the 2015 German film Victoria rather unique, however, is its stylistic, formal conceit: Victoria is one of the very few feature films in the history of the medium that were shot in a single continuous take.  Imagine: you start filming, and make a single mistake along the way, maybe a few minutes before the end, and you gotta start…. quite a thrill, isn’t it? 

Watch VICTORIA on Kanopy.

 

Start Your Summer Reading Lists

Reading is more of an escape than ever these days, and warm weather means it’s time for lots of lists of the “best books of summer.” Check out some of these recommendations, and if you’re still looking for a great book to read, give us a call at 508-653-6730 or fill out our Librarian On Call form for more suggestions!

 

Small Choices, Better Days

Small Choices…Better Days

Can we choose to be happier even in the midst of this pandemic?

By Martha E. Fagan, RN, BSN

Many, or most, of us pay particular attention to the big choices in our lives:  “What will I do for work? Will I get married? Will I have children? Where will I make my home? What is my calling?” These are all very important decisions and have a significant impact on where we find ourselves physically and emotionally.

Today, though, I want to explore the smaller choices we face in every moment of every day.  Most likely we think little about these small decisions, making them without mindfulness or deliberation…sometimes even without the awareness we’re even choosing. Yet psychological research has shown us that these small choices are just as important as the big ones.

Our well-being and happiness very much depend on our momentary choices. To choose is to create. Our choices create our reality. Small choices can make a world of difference!

Let’s be honest…we’re all facing Covid-fatigue.  As we lose our patience with this process our choices become more important than ever.  Last week I encouraged us to choose to view our circumstances through a lens of curiosity, this week let’s talk about why choices in the moment can be key to how we get through this, our long-term happiness, and our resilience.

In her book The How of Happiness: A Scientific Approach to Getting the Life You Want, best-selling author and prize-winning psychology professor Sonja Lyubomirsky explains that, on average, our well-being can be seen as three parts of a pie:

  • 50% of our well-being is determined by our genes or very early experiences (things we don’t really have control over); this is our Genetic Set Point.
  • Another 10% is determined by demographic variables such as where you live, marital status, income, health, etc.—our Life Circumstances. Many people pursue goals here, mistakenly thinking better life circumstances will have a large impact on their level of happiness and well-being.
  • The remaining 40% is determined by our thoughts, actions, choices, attitudes—our Intentional Activities. We can/should focus here.Will I exercise? Will I play with my children? Do I strive to achieve goals?

Am I grateful? Do I look on the bright side? Do I have/seek nurturing relationships? Do I experience and savor joyful moments?”

Think about the third slice of this pie for a moment…our small everyday choices have a large impact on our overall life happiness.  Dr. Tal Ben-Shahar, a leading educator in the field of Positive Psychology, reminds us: “At every moment in your life you have a choice. Moments add up to a lifetime; choices add up to a life.”

So small choices help our days be better and ours days string together to make our life.  Small choices can be game changers.

We can choose…

to focus on faults OR

to find benefits

 

to take things for granted OR

to appreciate the good around us

 

to perceive failure as a catastrophe OR

to understand failure is a learning opportunity

 

to run away from challenges OR

to courageously face challenges

 

to be cynical and sarcastic OR

to be open and sincere

 

to reject/suppress difficult emotions OR

to accept and fully experience emotions

 

to be mean and dismissive OR

to be kind and understanding

 

to gloss over the world around us OR

to be mindful of life’s treasures and wonders

 

~Tal Ben-Shahar

 

Why not begin now? Take a moment to think about these powerful choices and then decide how you will face the next small decision you make today.

While we’re social distancing and soon facing re-entering society in a limited way the choices we make about how we handle ourselves is key to our health and well-being.  We will remember this time…and if lucky enough to come through it with health, may we also come through it with some good memories of our small choices.

Martha Fagan is the Vice Chair of the Bacon Free Library. She may be reached through her email her at mefagan.bfl@gmail.com

 

Staff Pick: Movie of the Week

Graziella’s Recommendation: movie of the week on Kanopy
 
More from the movie corner of Graziella:
 
This week’s film is I Killed My Mother (J’ai tué ma mère). Don’t worry, there is no gruesome matricide nor any domestic violence. Made in 2009 by the French-Canadian enfant prodige Xavier Dolan when he was just twenty, I Killed My Mother is above all a visually inventive dramedy, a poignant story with great acting (the protagonist himself is played by the director) and told in an ingenious and imaginative style – an impressive debut on a shoestring budget…
 
Watch I Killed My Mother on Kanopy.
 

Escape into a Love Story

Romance Recommendations

These are stressful times, so why not find some escapism in a good love story? Check out these suggestions for books and movies to make you laugh, cry, and fall in love.

Romantic Comedies

The Hating Game: A Novel by Sally Thorne, Paperback | Barnes & Noble®Red, White & Royal Blue by Casey McQuiston, Paperback | Barnes ...The Kiss Quotient: Hoang, Helen: 9780451490803: Amazon.com: BooksAct Like It: A Slow-Burn Romance (London Celebrities Book 1 ...The Wedding Date: Guillory, Jasmine: 9780399587665: Amazon.com: Books

The Hating Game by Sally Thorne — borrow ebook or digital audiobook

Red, White & Royal Blue by Casey McQuiston — borrow ebook or digital audiobook

The Kiss Quotient by Helen Hoang — borrow ebook or digital audiobook

Act Like It by Lucy Parker — borrow ebook

The Wedding Date by Jasmine Guillory — borrow ebook or digital audiobook

 

Uplifting Stories

Evvie Drake Starts Over: A Novel: Holmes, Linda: 9780525619246 ...Amazon.com: Get a Life, Chloe Brown: A Novel (The Brown Sisters ...The Bookshop on the Corner: A Novel: Colgan, Jenny: 9780062467256 ...Amazon.com: Major Pettigrew's Last Stand: A Novel (9780812981223 ...The Bookish Life of Nina Hill: Waxman, Abbi: 9780451491879: Amazon ...

Evvie Drake Starts Over by Linda Holmes — borrow ebook or digital audiobook

Get a Life, Chloe Brown by Talia Hibbert — borrow ebook or digital audiobook

The Bookshop on the Corner by Jenny Colgan — borrow ebook or digital audiobook

Major Pettigrew’s Last Stand by Helen Simonson — borrow ebook or digital audiobook

The Bookish Life of Nina Hill by Abbi Waxman — borrow ebook or digital audiobook

 

It’s Complicated

Normal People: A Novel: Rooney, Sally: 9781984822178: Amazon.com ...Amazon.com: Americanah (8601200954517): Adichie, Chimamanda Ngozi ...The Song of Achilles: A Novel: Miller, Madeline: 9780062060624 ...The Engagements (Vintage Contemporaries): Sullivan, J. Courtney ...The Book of Unknown Americans by Cristina Henríquez, Paperback ...

Normal People by Sally Rooney — borrow ebook or digital audiobook

Americanah by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie — borrow ebook or digital audiobook

The Song of Achilles by Madeline Miller — borrow ebook or digital audiobook

The Engagements by J. Courtney Sullivan — borrow ebook or digital audiobook

The Book of Unknown Americans by Cristina Henriquez — borrow ebook or digital audiobook

 

Film Recommendations

Ondine (film) - WikipediaAmazon.com: The Umbrellas of Cherbourg (The Criterion Collection ...I Capture the Castle movie review (2003) | Roger EbertDisobedience movie poster #1562588 - MoviePosters2.comAmazon.com: Movie Posters Like Water for Chocolate - 27 x 40 ...His Girl Friday - WikipediaA Royal Affair | Total Movies Wiki | Fandom

Ondine — borrow from Hoopla

The Umbrellas of Cherbourg — borrow from Kanopy

I Capture the Castle — borrow from Hoopla

Disobedience — borrow from Kanopy

Like Water for Chocolate — borrow from Hoopla

His Girl Friday — borrow from Kanopy

A Royal Affair — borrow from Hoopla

Film Review: Take This Waltz | the secret keeperAmelie Movie Poster 27x40 Used MCP0005 – Mason City Poster CompanyStay-at-Home Movie Party: Charade | Eisenhower Public LibraryThe English Patient (film) - WikipediaBeyond the Lights by Gina Prince-Bythewood |Gina Prince-Bythewood ...Bridget Jones's Diary (film) - WikipediaThe Scent of Green Papaya - Wikipedia

Take This Waltz — borrow from Kanopy

Amelie — borrow from Hoopla

Charade — borrow from Kanopy

The English Patient — borrow from Hoopla

Beyond the Lights — borrow from Kanopy

Bridget Jones’s Diary — borrow from Hoopla

The Scent of Green Papaya — borrow from Kanopy

 

Choose Curiosity

CHOOSE CURIOSITY

By Martha E. Fagan, RN, BSN

Curiosity may have killed the cat but it’s a great way to discover new things about yourself, those you love, your surrounding community and the world at large.  Curiosity drives all aspects of learning, relationships, innovation and adaptation.  Choosing curiosity in the time of COVID-19 can be a great way to help yourself discover what serves you and your family best right now.

Let’s be honest, we wouldn’t choose to be entering week 9 of these restrictions and all that goes along with them.  We’re here in the midst of this trying to figure out the best way to survive, hopefully thrive, within the confines.  Curiosity may be just the way to do that— asking questions, seeking new ways to see and do things.

An article in the Harvard Business Review (September/October 2018) entitled “ Why Curiosity Matters.” states that “…curiosity is much more important to an enterprise’s performance than was previously thought.  That’s because cultivating it at all levels helps leaders and their employees adapt to uncertain market conditions and external pressures: When our curiosity is triggered, we think more deeply and rationally about decisions and come up with more-creative solutions.”

Curiosity is often described as novelty-seeking and being open to new experiences.  According to the VIA Institute on Character, “There are two key components to curious individuals: They are interested in exploring new ideas, activities and experiences, and they also have a strong desire to increase their own personal knowledge.”  Ordinarily there are countless ways for us to experiment and spark our curiosity…we can explore a new city or town, visit a new museum, try a new restaurant, pursue a new hobby, or take a new exercise class…the choices are endless.

As we shelter in place our curiosity is now limited to the microcosm of our home and restricted surrounding environment.  Suddenly our questions, discoveries and learning are focused on our simple daily needs, our chores, our family members, and working from home. 

In the past two years there’s been some turn over in the neighborhood where my husband and I live, so we have new neighbors.  The two families closest in proximity to us each have 2 children under the age of 6.  We live on a cul-de-sac, which it seems is the perfect place for a little one to glide on a scooter or learn to ride a bike!  It’s been delightful to watch the children as they wobble along, fall, get up and ultimately discover their balance.  Their untapped curiosity and excitement for what they’re learning is palpable…young children burst with curiosity in every moment.  When I’m lucky enough to be outside with them (socially distanced and masked up of course) they show me all the things they’ve learned and discovered and then ask me a million questions.

The kids don’t fully understand why but they’re thrilled Mommy and Daddy are home playing with them.  The parents however look and feel exhausted!  They tell me they’re happy to have a break in the day and be out in the sunshine with their little ones AND they’re feeling pressured to get back into the house to their desks and all the work that waits.  Both families have two working parents in jobs that can successfully be done from home.  This is a blessing and a curse—a blessing as their incomes continue, a curse as there are no boundaries right now of day or night or weekends, no time out of the house, no school, no socializing—time feels surreal and blurred and the workload is enormous.  They tell me they could be working day and night as they can’t seem to catch up with all the tasks at hand in addition to their jobs…namely the care of their children, cooking, cleaning and let’s not forget, sleep?

So what does this neighbor story have to do with curiosity?  At the risk of sounding a bit like Pollyanna, I’d like to suggest that curiosity can be a place to start as a way to spark creativity and thinking outside the box helping us find ways to function at our best in these circumstances.  We need to be able to think anew and problem solve innovatively as everything is shaken up and “normal routines” are a memory.

We can easily find ourselves functioning from a place of overwhelm and exhaustion during these unplanned and unprecedented times.  Being curious by asking ourselves questions can be a way to calm the feeling of being overwhelmed.  Curiosity is enlivening rather than anxiety producing and it can foster a sense of control.  It also supports self-reflection as we ask ourselves how we’re showing up for our loved ones and ourselves.

So now is the perfect time to ask questions about “why” and “how” we’re doing things.  Is there a better, more efficient, possibly even more enjoyable, way to proceed? Curiosity is so crucial now because it help us generate alternatives.

  • Can our children do some things for themselves that we’ve automatically done for them? Or can we do more chores as a family?
  • Is there a way to set a schedule so we find some time for daily self-care?
  • Can we experiment with new healthier, or more comforting, recipes using what’s available?
  • Is there a documentary to watch or a book to read that will spark new ideas about something we’re interested in, providing knowledge and pleasure?
  • Are there ways my partner and I can trade off on some responsibilities, allowing us both to have some alone time?
  • Is my current default routine working for me now?
  • How are my friends managing, can I learn something helpful from them?

Curiosity asks us to inquire or notice with an open mind, explore options and then take action.

What better time to strengthen our curiosity muscle?

Martha Fagan is the Vice Chair of the Bacon Free Library. She may be reached through her email her at mefagan.bfl@gmail.com

 

Staff Pick: Movie of the Week

Graziella’s Recommendation: movie of the week on Kanopy
 
More from the movie corner of Graziella:
 
This week’s film is Compliance, a small, American, independent production that premiered at Sundance in 2012.  Compliance received a limited release in theaters, and ended up below most viewers’ radars.  It may not be a stylistically inventive  movie, but it has punch—and be advised that although it is not graphic at all, it does deal with a disturbing situation—actually a true fact.  Taken in by the web spun by this ‘minor’ film, some of you might see Compliance as a timely, if oblique, allegory of ….. well, I’ll let you draw your own conclusions   ☺ .
 
Watch Compliance here on Kanopy.
 
 

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